LIVING BEYOND EXPECTATIONS
From the Desk of Sarah Nadler Troutdale, Oregon
Are you thinking about taking the first step, or your next, to start building a life beyond expectations?
I was born a complete introvert, and for most of my life I was utterly at the mercy of what other people thought or said about me.
Now, I'm an author, public speaker, business woman and life coach, and I control my own fate...not anyone else.
The journey for me was long and heartbreaking. But it doesn't have to be that way for you.
My name is Sarah Nadler, I'm a Life Coach, and this is my story.
When I was growing up I was a total introvert. I had my head always stuck in a book, and I suffered from debilitating shyness.
As I got older, It felt to me like the world kept setting these boundaries on my creativity. I could dream, but life bore very little resemblance to the ideal in my mind. So I shut it out with books and stayed a quiet little girl with big dreams that played silently in her head.
For those who are new to the blog, Sarah Nadler is a Life Coach & inspirational speaker with twelve years of experience helping clients reach relationship, career and Big Hairy Audacious life goals. Her work has been featured on Enterprise Podcast Network, The Sierra Leone Times, and her latest book Walking Past Expectations was rated #6 on Lifney's list of Best Books to Read On The Beach This Summer 2019.
I don’t remember when I started to dance. But I remember Zonnie.
Zonnie Bauer was the owner of the studio, and my first real teacher in the ways of Jazz. She taught me how to make communication with my body.
Her vivacity was contagious.
A tiny woman, less than five feet tall, she had been a professional jazz dancer and now taught classes in Hollywood. Many of the girls in my class went on to professional careers of their own.
Zonnie taught me that an artist could do no wrong. So what if society frowned on this or that? A choreographer’s word is God in the dance world, and a dancers body is a blank canvas for her soul.
My life would never be the same.
I remember the first time I got up on that stage, in front of hundreds of parents, friend, family. The confidence I had lacked all my life suddenly thrummed through my veins. I came alive! Stage fright was a nonissue for me. Not when I danced. I could “say” anything I wished to that audience of adults and strangers. I could be sassy without getting smacked. I could leap and come down with a crash of the wooden flooring, and not be scolded for making noise. I twirled, I twinkled...I flirted and no one called me names. I was free. Free from the expectations of others. That was my first taste of what was to come. But still for years, off stage I remained an introverted girl, who could barely speak to strangers. My mother would cajole me, promising my favorite foods if only I would pick up the phone and order it! To no avail. It wasn’t until I was in my thirties that I discovered the secret.
Society puts up invisible walls around our capabilities. Maybe you’ve felt them?
“It just isn’t done.”
“We don’t do that.”
“It’s bad manners...”
... a thousand walls, set by parents, authorities, or even peers.
When they weren’t speaking them outright, they were giving you weird looks - that look that says, something isn’t quite right about you. Something is different...TOO different.
You’d better not reach. You’d better not speak. You’ll be better off if you don’t communicate.
They were right. There IS something different about you.
We ARE different. We’re still alive.
A person is as alive as they can dream, and as successful as they can make those dreams reality. What are the ingredients of success? Communication. Reaching. Being BIG. Willingness to be different, to escape the need for approval in order to accomplish something good in our lives. Stop listening to the whisper of the world. The one that tells you no, stop trying, be smaller, reach less. You have to walk past the expectations of others, if you’re going to live a life of your own creation. I don’t pretend to know whether God, or Fate or anyone else “meant” you to do it. YOU meant to do it. That’s enough for me.
A PASSION FOR ABLE PEOPLE
I'm Sarah Nadler and I help small business owners take back control of their lives, so you can live a life beyond your own expectations.